As I’ve talked about in other posts, I’ve learned a lot lately about conflict resolution skills. I’ve made a commitment to myself to use them from now on when I’m dealing with conflicts, but I’ve slipped up a few times along the way. I was telling my therapist how much I regret that.
She said something that helped me forgive myself and move forward: “Do you expect a kindergartner to be able to write a 12th grade paper?” Now I see myself as a student working to master a subject. I realize now that it’s okay to need some practice at a skill before mastering it. If you’re trying to learn to get better at something, keep in mind what my therapist said about the kindergartner. Since you’d be understanding of the kindergartner, extend the same understanding to yourself.